As new year of 2025 already started and even though it is still cold or snowy outside, we can certainly make our love making or play scenes hot and keep them exciting for a long time by doing a new year resolution with each other. 

This year, let’s commit to making our BDSM dynamic even more exciting and fulfilling. Here’s a sample resolution to guide us:

“We will explore new fantasies, communicate openly about our desires, and regularly introduce fresh elements into our scenes to keep our connection thrilling and adventurous. Together, we’ll attend workshops, read BDSM literature, or try new toys and techniques to deepen our trust and passion.”

This resolution focuses on growth, communication, and adventure to keep your BDSM relationship lively and engaging throughout the year.

Here are some more ideas for your resolution. These are just suggestions; obviously, you should pick those that you think would work for you. Or, you could use them as a jumping-off point for some unique resolutions of your own.

Well, here goes!

  1. Resolve to give each other a personal and detailed compliment regularly 
  2. Resolve to try a new BDSM scene regularly.
  3. Resolve to buy a new BDSM toy once a month.
  4. Resolve to discuss feelings and fantasies openly with each other 
  5. If you are a Dom/me, resolve to make your slave write a diary – whether regularly or only for a scene.
  6. If you are a Dom/me, resolve to learn a new BDSM technique every other month.
  7. If you are a submissive, resolve to learn how to better communicate with your Dominant. 
  8. Resolve to make regular playtime in spite of work and other demands on your life.
  9. Resolve to read your slave contract regularly if you have one.
  10. If you do not have a slave contract, resolve to make one.
  11. If you are the Dom/me, resolve to push your sub’s limits from time-to-time.
  12. If you are the Dom/me, resolve to listen to your submissive better.
  13.  Resolve to go to a BDSM play party at a local dungeon.
  14.  If you are the Dominant, resolve to ask your submissive to list his/her favorite BDSM activities and try to incorporate them into your play.   (This is one long resolution!)
  15.  If you are the Dom/me, resolve to be a better one.
  16.  If you are the sub, resolve to be a better sub.
  17.  Resolve to listen to your partner more effectively.
  18.  Resolve to discuss what you liked and what you did not like about your BDSM relationship in the last year. No punishment, no protocol – just honest discussion.
  19.  If you are a Dom/me, resolve to examine any bad decisions you made last year objectively
  20.  Resolve not to repeat mistakes. (A good one!)
  21.  Resolve to eliminate one habit your partner hates – such as smoking.
  22.  Resolve to keep at least one of your resolutions!
  23.  Resolve to read at least one book about BDSM.   (With Amazon, this is too easy!
  24.  Resolve to discuss D/s deeply with a fellow lifstyler.
  25.  Resolve to raise the spiritual level of your D/s relationship.

These new resolutions are more about the dynamics of D/s than about play. You can use them or adapt them as you see fit. But, to grow your D/s relationship you should address all aspects of BDSM – from the nuts and bolts of play to the more esoteric and spiritual aspects of D/s. The more you understand about D/s, the better your relationships will be.